One of the most difficult diseases to cure (at least from my clinical experiences) is a worrisome mind. The other one is unforgiveness, manifested in anger and indifference. Even worse, if we refuse to talk to the other party or to be reconciled, even though the other party offers an apology. It is ego at its peak and lack of maturity on our part. It is bad for your health.
Like most of you, I went through lots of ups and downs in my life. We have lots of worries and is not always easy to be worry free. It can’t be solved just by attending a yoga class or keeping busy. I guess the most worrisome thing is money or a job.
One of the ways I learned through the years is:
1.Invest in your wellness – Wellness is not about more medical screenings. Wellness is working on your health at all levels – physical health (diet, herbs, exercise etc.), mind (lifestyle, attitude etc.), and spiritual (why are you here for?). Without health, there is no wealth.
2. Invest in skills – My advice to young people – stop attending MBA and general business courses. Learn a skill – cooking, repairing, hair cutting, dog grooming, IT skills, translation work, designing, complementary therapies etc. Make yourself a USP (Unique selling point). Don’t do or learn anything just because everyone is doing it. You need to have something that nobody has. People have to look for you and pay you for it.
As a result of point 2 and supported by point 1, continue to improve your income level without increasing your standard of living. It is not the same as – spend less and stay rich.
Let’s say you were earning $2000 per month and was living in an HDB flat. Continue to do so even though you are now earning $10,000 per month. Do you really need to have a car? Is it really an ego or self-esteem issue? I have a friend who owns a few properties in various countries but he is still living in a small apartment with his family and he takes public transport. As a result, he has less worry and more resources to spend on wellness, holidays, and more importantly, time for his family. And he looks younger than his age.
Happiness is a matter of balance, not excitation.